Between the ages of six and nine most children begin to understand that death is final. During this stage of development children may believe that death is contagious and may fear being left home alone. They may also visualize death as a ghost or boogeyman and ask lots of questions such as “When are you going to die?” and want to know details about how their loved one died. They may even ask questions like “Will I die if I smoke” or suffer from a condition or situation the deceased did.
School-aged children are also carefully watching how those around them respond to death. During this stage of development nannies can support children by talking to the child and answering his questions. Nannies can also support the child by helping him to remember and share good memories he has of the person who has died.